Do you have a "bestie"?

An Aussie friend of mine, calls her close friends "Bestie's". I think that's just cute, and it got me thinking about my current situation in life.

What is that situation you ask? I'm not sure. I don't feel I've been wronged by anyone that I'm using this forum to send them a "message" or anything. It's just lately I've been thinking a lot about my friends, Besties or otherwise, or lack there of. My 5 year old plays with a new person her age (or not for that matter) and all of a sudden she has a new "best" friend. LOL So easy! Then there is our teenager can't part with her friends without hugging and throwing out the "Love you's" like it will be a year or more before seeing each other again when in reality they'll see each other the very next day. I tell ya!! Growing up I've had lots of friends, not an abundance of Besties, but three or four along the way. (You know who you are!)

But now that I'm 30-something and raising a family I find keeping those close friend relationships, difficult. We've lived in three different places over the last 8 years so each time I make a new "Bestie" that I can trust completely with my thoughts and opinions, we move. Of course there are phones, and all those lovely internet devices that the teenagers thrive on but alas we are still 30-something with families. Everyone is busy with kids activities, work, family obligations, and just the general goings on of daily life. Time passes and before you know it, it's been months since you've talked to your Bestie.

Do guys have "Besties"? I'm sure some do, but I don't think it's quite the same. They hang out, golf, drink beer, whatever... but do they talk , discuss life, share their feelings, and even vent when needed? Probably not, well I'm sure the Vent about their wives, that's a given. But it's not the same.

Why, again am I bringing this up? I don't know really. We've lived in this place for 3.5 years now, the longest we've lived anywhere except where we grew up of course, and (please don't take this as a pathetic plea for one) I haven't found what I consider to be a "Bestie" here. I love the friends I/we have of course but yet something is missing. Is it that I'm just in a spot in life where it's difficult to devote the time to cultivate that kind of relationship? Or am I closing myself off, in preparation of an impending move. (no nothing is in the immediate future, but it's bound to happen eventually) I know I'm shy, that's probably my biggest problem. And even though I've come a long way, I still have miles to go.

I'd like to have the ideal relationship with my husband to be able to say "My husband is my best friend" but come on... Seriously? He just cannot understand the gravity of many of the things I would chat about, like the situation Little Grey is in now telling Karev she'd never leave him as he's nearly dying and yet her real love, McSteamy, is saving his life. Don't get me wrong I can tell him everything and I love him like no other, but really... It's not just that either, but to have someone to do girly things with. Garage sales, movies, trips across the border for cheap food and mail pickups (LOL), parades, fairs, and all those other "foo foo" activities the man doesn't like to do.

So tell me, are you in a similar situation? Do you have a "bestie" or just lots of regular friends? Do you still talk to your Bestie from high school, or do you make lots of new ones along life's journey? I'm curious, so please share your thoughts with me.